Date: May 19-21, 2023 – (a 2-night retreat)
“What is the focus of this retreat?”
Everyone experiences suffering. The focus of this retreat is to name, feel and own our suffering so that we can transform it and live into a new way of being in the world. The retreat will provide time for personal reflection on our experiences of suffering, connection with other brothers in council circles, communal rituals and the wisdom and courage that flows from hearing each other’s stories.
What to expect:
Have you ever felt a tinge of remorse over past hurts? Do you carry regrets, guilt, shame, anger, fear, or jealousy from past pains or sufferings? Do the images still haunt you? They could be from a death, loss of relationship, loss of job, loss of health, retirement, or more. We generally don’t manage pain in a healthy way. How could we? Men don’t easily reach out for help or nurture friendships that can provide consolation and guidance in the midst of turmoil. The result is that we transmit our pain to those around us, often not realizing it. Come, join a circle of men seeking health and wholeness while navigating the messy waters of suffering.
“Pain not transcended is transmitted.” – Rohr
“The most important thing in your life is not what you do; it’s who you become.” – Dallas Willard
“The secret of contentment is to not want.” Joni Erickson
“Many say pain is physical discomfort, but suffering comes from our resistance, denial, and sense of injustice or wrongness about that pain.” – Rohr
Carl Jung said that so much suffering comes into the world because people will not accept the “legitimate suffering” that comes from being human. -Rohr
“When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you gets fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
And some dead echo drags your voice down
Where words have no confidence.
Your heart has grown heavy with loss;
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens…” – John O’Donohue
The retreat leaders:
Brad Foster –
Brad Foster – Brad has been active with this Illuman chapter for several years and is a Spiritual Director, past Grief Counselor,
Retreat leader, Chaplain, and has worked closely with jail inmates in their quest for a healthy life style. He hopes this retreat will serve as a healing path for each of us who may be dealing with the burdens of past and present pains we are suffering.
David Wenger –
On the council of Illuman of Indiana-Michigan, he will be the ritual Elder and is an experienced retreat leader.